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Connection Parenting
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"Continuing the Connection of Attachment Parenting"

Pam Leo, Founder and Connection Parenting Educator

"Let's raise children who won't have to recover from their childhood."
                                      - Pam Leo


PLEASE NOTE:
 
Rebecca Thompson and the good folks over at Consciously Parenting have had many requests for more Connection Parenting support, so she will be hosting a no-cost Webinar called Connection Parenting Tips this coming Wednesday, March 26, 2014. She's going to be offering this at 3 different times to accommodate as many time zones as possible.

Calls will be at 1pm eastern, 9pm eastern, and 11pm eastern.
 
Sign up for this Webinar here!
 
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    We're going to be talking about:
     
  • How connecting with yourself and your own story can help you to be a more peaceful parent.
  • The best way to raise respectful children who others want to be around.
  • Why children have emotional outbursts and how to handle them with love and respect and much more!

I'll be answering your questions on this live Webinar and can't wait to connect with you!

THANK YOU!


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"The level of cooperation parents get from their children is usually
equal to the level of connection children feel with their parents."

                                      - Pam Leo


FREE Streaming Audio Interview:
Introduction to Connection Parenting
with Pam Leo

Pam Leo is a founding board member of the Alliance for Transforming the Lives of Children (aTLC) and is one of the the primary architects of the aTLC Proclamation and Blueprint. The aTLC has generously posted a free, one-hour streaming audio in-studio interview (MP3) on their website. Please click the following link if you would like to hear the interview. The link will open in a new page:

Streaming Audio Interview 1:
Pam Leo - Introduction to Connection Parenting.


The Relationship Coaching Network has recorded a phone interview about Connection Parenting with Pam. That interview is available as a free Quicktime movie (MP3) from their website. Please click the following link if you would like to hear that interview. This link will open in a new page:

Streaming Audio Interview 2:
Pam Leo on Connection Parenting


NEW Teleclass Series

Attend the Connection Parenting 7-week series from home! These teleclass workshops are being hosted by the kind and generous folks at Consciously Parenting. Click here for time and date schedules and to register. (link opens in a new window)


What is Connection Parenting?

"Connection parenting is parenting through connection
instead of coercion, through love instead of fear."

The model of parenting most of us grew up with was authoritarian parenting, which is based on fear. Some of us may have grown up with permissive parenting, which is also based on fear. Authoritarian parenting is based on the child's fear of losing the parent's love. Permissive parenting is based on the parent's fear of losing the child's love. Connection parenting is based on love instead of fear.

Connection Parenting recognizes that securing and maintaining a healthy parent-child bond is our primary work as parents and the key to our children's optimal human development. Our effectiveness as parents is in direct proportion to the strength of the bond we have with our child. Connection Parenting promotes parenting practices that support a strong, healthy parent-child bond.

Both authoritarian parenting and permissive parenting are reactive. Connection parenting is proactive. Rather than focusing on ways to discipline children when their feelings of disconnection result in uncooperative or unacceptable behavior, Connection Parenting focuses on ways to maintain and increase the parent-child bond/connection.

Connection parenting is an ideal, a navigation star we can look to for guidance. Whenever we question how to respond to a child we can ask ourselves, will this response create a connection or a disconnection. We feel connected when we feel listened to and loved. We feel disconnected when we feel hurt and unheard.

Sometimes a child's behavior will push our buttons and we react rather than respond. As soon as we realize we have created a disconnect, we can reconnect by doing the following:

  • Rewind - Acknowledge we have said or done something hurtful
  • Repair - Apologize and ask for forgiveness
  • Replay - Respond with love and listening
Even if we can't parent in the most nurturing ways all the time, the more often we can, the more our children get what they need, the better they will be able to weather the times when we parent in less nurturing ways.


Pam Leo is an affiliate of the
Alliance for Transforming the Lives of Children ( aTLC ).

To learn more about parenting practices that support healthy bonding, please see the Proclamation and Blueprint for Transforming the Lives of Children at the aTLC website:

http://www.atlc.org/


Pam Leo speaks on Parenting Advice:

A parenting philosophy is relevant only to the extent that it
promotes parenting practices which support secure bonding.

Our effectiveness as parents is in direct proportion to the strength of the bond we have with our child. Securing and maintaining that bond is our primary work as parents and is the key to optimal human development.

Parents often tell me that they find parenting advice to be confusing and contradictory. They ask, "How do I tell the difference between 'good' parenting advice and 'bad' parenting advice? One expert or book says to do one thing and another tells me to do the exact opposite? How am I to know what is best for my child?"

My best answer to that question is the question I ask myself: "If I follow this advice, will I create a connection or a disconnection with my child?" When a parent's behavior creates a connection, the child feels that the parent is on his side, and their bond and connection is strengthened. When a parent's behavior creates a disconnection, the child feels that the parent is against him, and their bond and connection is weakened. Since parents' effectiveness is in direct proportion to the strength of the bond and connection they have with their child, any advice that undermines the strength of that bond is counterproductive.

"In any interaction with a child, will my words
or actions strengthen or weaken our connection?"

                                      - Pam Leo


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